Don’t shudder at the mention of dirty talk over the phone. What we mean by that is not the use of four letter words or any swearing over the phone, but just mere flirtatious talk with a bit of a sensual touch and an erotic fervor added to what you may otherwise normally talk. Talking like that makes it feel like as if you are in a rapturous embrace. Additionally, people find it very much easier to exchange expressions of love and intimacy over the phone than when face-to-face, obviously due to the absence of body language to give away your feelings and make you embarrassed when the other notices your blush as you whisper sensually endearing words in a face-to-face situation.

If you are wondering as a woman how on earth to start this dirty talk with your man over the phone, here are a few tips:

Making the First Move

It should be understood that you cannot start this as a planned duet. This is something that has to flow gradually as if it was coming naturally. To make it happen, you may strike up a telephone conversation in the normal manner and gradually and discreetly lead the conversation into forbidden areas and towards the desired climax by starting with a few mild flirtatious expressions and getting onto more intimate sweet nothings to do with kissing, cuddling and the like as you pick up and start changing gears.

Making it Easier For Your Partner

If your partner is the shy and sensitive type, now he too should be starting to feel a little hot with a few goose pimples coming up and his blood pressure rising. So talk to bring home to him that personal and intimate feelings for each other should be expressed in no uncertain terms and discussed between two lovers frankly without any reservations or inhibitions.

Being Open Minded

To hear you speak a little sensually and seductively for the first time could have been something unexpected for him. However, with your gradual and methodical entry into this vital arena of talk, he also should be happy that you have taken the initiative to break the ice to clear the path to a new outlook on the same old relationship with uninhibited, erotic and sensual love to replace the more conservative type that prevailed earlier. Indulging in dirty talk over the phone should no longer be a challenge to either partner; but an ecstatic time to look forward to especially when you are out of physical contact over long periods of time.

Romance can be defined in many ways, but those that refer to feelings of excitement associated with love are the best. This excitement can either be very playful or intense. If romance comes easy to you, you’ve got it within you to keep your relationship going strong for a long time to come. If not, it can become second nature with some practice.

1.) The next time she’s doing some shopping, accompany her. This is her day so you should stay with her and concentrate on her experience. You can’t bolt out to the sports equipment section to check out things that you like. You will need to be interested in anything concerning her.

2.) If she’s had a very stressful work week, then rise early on Saturday morning and cook breakfast for her. Bring it to her on a fancy tray for some breakfast in bed. Depending on how stressed out she is, you might permit her some quiet time reading her favorite book or magazine.

3.) A simple fireplace is a potent ingredient for a romantic evening particularly in the wintertime. A cheery fire combined with wine, champagne, a comfy love seat, and dimmed lights all create the perfect atmosphere for romance. This works even better if it is part of a getaway such as a skiing lodge, rustic cabin, or an elegant hotel.

4.) When it comes to the romantic gesture, you don’t always have to hit the ball out of the park. Grand and noble gestures are effective but can be hard to keep up on a daily basis. This is where lots of small gestures are used.

Women value both the small gestures and the big ones equally. So keep up with the compliments, kisses, hugs, touching and expressions of appreciation.

5.) Routines are essential for getting through the every day chores efficiently. But they are tedious and boring and this is deadly to romance. Try shaking up the daily routines and bring her some roses or prepare a dinner by candle light. Anything that’s novel or unusual creates excitement.

6.) Get together for the evening and create a bunch of love coupons. How they get redeemed can be very simple such as drawing one at random from a hat or making it a very elaborate game. The possibilities are entirely limited by your own creativity.

7.) Centuries ago, the love letter and poetry of love were an artistic production. They’re not in fashion now, but things old fashioned and romance seem to go together. Get a book of love poetry, choose a poem and change it so that she’ll think that it was penned by you. Place it in a box of expensive chocolates and gift wrap it.

With practice, romance will become very natural.

Even though controlling relationships are almost universally considered to be negative and very undesirable, they are far more prevalant than people realize. They are primarily the by-product of children being raised in homes with one or more controlling parents, and/or a highly unstable environment due to negative events.

The person who is trying to do the controlling is almost always trying to compensate for the “out of control” nature of the environment they grew up in. Internal fears of life spiralling out of control plague people with regular control problems. Their context for life was set in childhood and they often continue living out of that paradigm even though it’s no longer relevant.

The unstable home environment could have been a result of an alcoholic parent(s), an absent workaholic parent(s), the breakdown of the marriage, or some form of physical or emotional abuse. If a parent withholds love and affection as a means of keeping the child under their thumb, this destructive behaviour can carry over into adult relationships and cause a lot of problems.

The person who chooses to marry or date the controller is doing so because of one or a combination of the following reasons. 1. This is what they grew up with and it’s what they’re accustomed to. Although it’s not pleasant, being controlled is strangely comfortable. 2. They are attempting to change the controller, to reform them. This is often done unknowingly. The unconcious intention is to try and repair a disappointing relationship they had with their parent(s). 3. Being in a relationship with a controller makes them look good, because when they measure their own behaviour against the controller’s, they look like their doing a pretty good job of running their life, even though they’re probably not. 4. As times life seems easier while in a relationship with a controller because the controller makes most if not all the decisions for both people. It gives them someone to blame when things don’t work out right because…they didn’t make the decision!?!?

There are a few things to consider if you are looking to steer clear of a controlling relationship.

1. If being controlled is what you are used to, what you grew up with, then it’s vital to realize that “you are not responsible for the environment you grew up in.” In dysfunctional homes, the children tend to take responsibility for the parent’s problematic behaviours. In controlling homes it’s common for the parent(s) to blame the child as a means of off loading responsibility and thus paralyzing the child. In order to drive it deep into your subconcious mind, I suggest you repeat that phrase over and over. “The environment you grew up in was not your responsibility, not your doing.” As importantly, “you are 100% response-able, able to respond, to your life as an adult.” You can learn the skills and run your life well without the need to have a controlling person manipulating you.

2. If it’s your intention to try and reform a controller….please stop. Trying to control something you have no control over is the best possible way to create insanity in an individual. The only control any of us have is over ourselves. We can gain tremendous increases in our sense of control over our own lives if we will spend our time working on our own hangups and misgivings. Efforts to correct a controlling person are really only futile attempts to control them.

3. As an attempt to cover up your lack of personal initiative, don’t hide behind a controlling person’s unhealthy actions to make yourself look good. Find a reason for living that brings joy to you and others. Do some research into your life purpose. Why are you here? We’ve most likely never met, you and I, yet I am quite sure you have abilities and gifts that can be used to make the world a better place to live.

4. Learn how to make decisions for yourself. Being in a relationship with a controlling person can be pretty terrific because they are more than happy to make most if not all the decisions. That seems to make things easy, except that you aren’t developing the habit of making good decisions. This step is primarily about your will and rarely about skill. “But I don’t know how!” you protest. You will learn. Bit by bit, day by day. The process of learning to make better choices is the same as learning any new skill, it gets better and better with more practice. Practice does not make perfect, but it sure makes life a lot more pleasant!